
We have so many things to worry about right now, I figure we can stand a little good news, right? Whenever I read a story like this column by Rick Reilly, it makes me feel a lot less hopeless about humanity:
We live in a world where Peyton Manning walks off the Super Bowl field without shaking anybody's hand. Where Tiger Woods leaves the Masters without a word of thanks to the fans or congratulations to the winner. Where NFL lineman Albert Haynesworth kicks a man's helmetless head without a thought.
So if you think sportsmanship is toast, this next story is an all-you-can-eat buffet to a starving man.
It happened at a junior varsity girls' softball game in Indianapolis this spring. After an inning and a half, Roncalli was womanhandling inner-city Marshall Community. Marshall pitchers had already walked nine Roncalli batters. The game could've been 50-0 with no problem.
Yes, a team that hadn't lost a game in 2½ years, a team that was going to win in a landslide purposely offered to declare defeat. Why? Because Roncalli wanted to spend the two hours teaching the Marshall girls how to get better, not how to get humiliated.
It's no wonder. This was the first softball game in Marshall history. A middle school trying to move up to include grades 6 through 12, Marshall showed up to the game with five balls, two bats, no helmets, no sliding pads, no cleats, 16 players who'd never played before, and a coach who'd never even seen a game.
One Marshall player asked, "Which one is first base?" Another: "How do I hold this bat?" They didn't know where to stand in the batter's box. Their coaches had to be shown where the first- and third-base coaching boxes were.
That's when Roncalli did something crazy. It offered to forfeit.
Yes, a team that hadn't lost a game in 2½ years, a team that was going to win in a landslide purposely offered to declare defeat. Why? Because Roncalli wanted to spend the two hours teaching the Marshall girls how to get better, not how to get humiliated.
"The Marshall players did NOT want to quit," wrote Roncalli JV coach Jeff Traylor, in recalling the incident. "They were willing to lose 100 to 0 if it meant they finished their first game." But the Marshall players finally decided if Roncalli was willing to forfeit for them, they should do it for themselves. They decided that maybe -- this one time -- losing was actually winning.
That's about when the weirdest scene broke out all over the field: Roncalli kids teaching Marshall kids the right batting stance, throwing them soft-toss in the outfield, teaching them how to play catch. They showed them how to put on catching gear, how to pitch, and how to run the bases. Even the umps stuck around to watch.
"One at a time the Marshall girls would come in to hit off of the [Roncalli] pitchers," Traylor recalled. "As they hit the ball their faces LIT UP! They were high fiving and hugging the girls from Roncalli, thanking them for teaching to them the game."
This is the kind of thing that can backfire with teenagers -- the rich kids taking pity on the inner-city kids kind of thing. Traylor was afraid of it, too.
"One wrong attitude, one babying approach from our players would shut down the Marshall team, who already were down," wrote Traylor. "But our girls made me as proud as I have ever been. ... [By the end], you could tell they were having a blast. The change from the beginning of the game to the end of the practice was amazing."
Roncalli wasn't done. Traylor asked all the parents of his players and anybody else he knew for more help for Marshall -- used bats, gloves, helmets, money for cleats, gloves, sliders, socks and team shirts. They came up with $2,500 and worked with Marshall on the best way to help the program with that money. Roncalli also connected Marshall with former Bishop Chatard coach Kim Wright, who will advise the program.
"We probably got to some things 10 years quicker than we would have had without Roncalli," says Marshall principal Michael Sullivan.
And that was just the appetizer. A rep from Reebok called Sullivan and said, "What do you need? We'll get it for you." A man who owns an indoor batting cage facility has offered free time in the winter. The Cincinnati Reds are donating good dirt for the new field Marshall will play on.
"This could've been a thing where our kids had too much pride," says Sullivan. "You know, 'I'm not going to listen to anybody.' But our kids are really thirsty to learn."
And they are. Marshall never won a game, but actually had leads in its last three games. In fact, it went so well, the players and their parents asked if they could extend the season, so they're looking to play AAU summer softball.




It just proves what everybody knows in their heart. We are not bad people. We just have bad leaders.
and some bad rich people to spoil the game. 'The Benchwarmers' is still one of my favorite movies!
that women should always be in charge. We're more fairer. ;-]
And way more lovely :p
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for me at least. While I agree women generally have more compassion and obviously commit less crime, etc, and that men have mucked up the world pretty well, sexism is sexism.
And most every man who does bad things was raised (probably poorly) by a woman.
This tiff aside I'm thinking: "so maybe all isn't lost after all."
Heartwarming regardless of the gender of the participants.
Like Maggie Thatcher or Sarah Palin?
At least one male coach in the picture. No reason to assume that jus' cus it's womens soft ball that there are no men involved. But, I will say that there were certainly more than a couple of real adults in charge.Maybe other "adults" could learn a lesson.
Well, this certainly brightened my day.
What is your conceptual, continuity?
This is not teh sports i know! "we" need to win no matter what! #1 #1 #1
f*ck yeah!
Lovely story :)
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I don't give a toss.
That's what you get with chicks in sports...
Diabolus est Deus Inversus
I wish that women soccer got more tv airplay. I like to watch bouncing boo......erm....ball.
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I don't give a toss.
Get a girlfriend .... she'll play bouncy ... whatever ... with you.
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Hee, that's a good plan, i'll work on it.
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I don't give a toss.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n9ekl-RvTzs&fe...
Diabolus est Deus Inversus
ys.......You are incorrigible.......... ; ]
and he called me a talking pile of pigshit and that was when my parents drove all the way down from Michigan to see me play the game... And did I cry?"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tPqYnC-SW5w
Thanks. :)
men bring a certain dignity to sports that women simply cannot muster ;)
P.S. it should have been Rogers Hornsby <--- the o.c.d. in me shining on through xD
Because my o.c.d. was kicking in.
BTW, Hornsby was, by all accounts, an asshole. A major league asshole.
Don't try to confuse the issue with half-truths and gorilla dust.
aren't they all? =D
I gotta ask though, because I see it everywhere. Who's the genius that declared women who play softball must wear shorts? Baseball and softball should be played in at least 3/4 pants with high socks. There's a reason for that, it's so the players don't wind-up with road rash when they slide. When I played (forever ago) and when my son played, not so long ago, if you showed up to practice in shorts you didn't run the bases, and if you made it a habit you did laps. Anyone playing ball in shorts is just wrong.
Wish the GOP had that much caring for the people of America.
We wouldn't be in the mess we are in now if they did.
As sociopaths and psychopaths, re=thugs are completely devoid of empathy. They don't even have a clue about it ... they don't recognize it for what it is when they see it. To them it represents weakness or bad character.
Wishing is pointless - they'll always be trying to drag us back to the old testament or the 14th century.
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This was a simply lovely story, and proof that there are still good guys (or in this case, gals) out there. Thanks to C&L for featuring this, which brought tears to my eyes.
Kids can be so great most times, and we don't give them enough credit. In my experience as a parent and as a person who has worked with kids, they seem to have a deep sense of what is fair and what isn't. A lot of credit is due to the experienced team's parents for raising such nice kids.
That's the way to play ball! Good for all of them. This wonderful response to the moment gives me great hope for humanity... yes, I gets my gems where I can get 'em!
Ladies, you rock!!!
This is the country *I* want back.
...I'm sure it didn't happen on the Planet Earth! Not with humans. Not in America. Not possible.
But if it did happen, what an amazing thing.
This blog post and comments are way to positive. I like the rain!
Get of my lawn you pesky kids.
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I don't give a toss.
I can see this being a John Mellencamp song. Fuck that, John Cougar!
is intended to be a factual statement
See what happens when people think of more than themselves. Good things happen...
But 'share the wealth' is 'socialism'... Sad...
The problem with American politics right now is Republican extremism, and if you’re not willing to say that, you’re helping make that problem worse.
The Japanese believe there is no honor in defeating a lesser opponent. Honor is something I wish all Americans understood and took to heart.
Seppuku is honourable in Japan as well but i'll pass.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L10fR31jC1w
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McDfLkLqJAE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSNGeazCW6I
Diabolus est Deus Inversus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMmOB7qyUFI
Diabolus est Deus Inversus
is a mixed blessing at best. Talk to some of the women there about how they are "honored". And the last thing the US needs right now is a race of Bushido warriors. The interesting thing to me is how the American spirit of equality and relative disrespect for authority kicked the ass of the Bushido warriors in WWII. And it wasn't just our industrial might. If you study the history of the Pacific war its clear that the American ideal of thinking on your feet and staying alive out performed the ideal of dying an honorable death.
Yup, all those women that got honoured in the Dutch Indies and elsewhere working as sex slaves sure felt honoured
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I don't give a toss.
As soon as I started reading this article I knew that the team in question had to be a women/girl team. I'll have real hope when this happens in a boys varsity league or when women start controlling the world.
that had an excellent coach and they won most of their games. However, one Saturday they were really kicking this one team big-time. At the half, the coach called the boys over and told them they had a big enough lead and he didn't want the other team humiliated and he wanted the boys to dial it down a bit. They still won but by a respectable margin, not the blow-out they were headed for.
I've had to do just that already this baseball season.
I coach 13-14 boys, and we played a team way below our level. First thing...my youngest pitchers are getting some innings. All my little guys are on the infield, and nobody leaves third base unless they are forced home.
Winning is great, but the love of the game is far more important. Making is fun for the kids should be the goal at the recreational level. I despise coaches to go all out to win, all the time.
I know nothing about this guy (he is probably a sham like the rest)... and who knows how "real life" this story is... but this blog post about the softball made me think about this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ai0oXFKI-fM
If you can get passed the God stuff, the actual point of the story (and the awesome softball team mentioned above) is pretty cool. Having worked with teens for the last few years, they are very selfish, self-absorbed and impatient... but, they are also really cool and are about one billion times more tolerant than most of us. It is heartening to consider that one day the mental illness of conservatism will be defeated by love, sportsmanship and good will between everyday people =D
Mankind at it's best - caring about and helping each other.
Those girls are real champions.
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and stupendous softball sports story.....
thankyou....
This is the perfect time and place to post this wonderful piece:
The Empathic Civilisation.
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other stuff on "mirror neurons" for any who are curious:
http://www.pbs.org/wnet/humanspark/video/web-...
http://www.ted.com/talks/vs_ramachandran_the_...
Also, I'm not sure if it was PBS or where, but I saw something where somebody took a bunch of empty boxes that were linked together (but appeared to be stacked precariously) and they walked around on a crowded urban street. Scientists were interested in the reactions of those around the person with the boxes and they instantly recognized people empathizing with the person's plight (e.g., looks of alarm, offers to help, etc.). I wish I could remember what it was from and put a clip, but anyway... awesome clip, Trittydi... TYVM.
there was a women's softball game at a college were a young woman hit a home run but manged to tear her knee up or something to the point she couldn't get to first base. None of her team mates could touch her because that would mean an automatic out. So the members of her other team picked her up and carried her to each base finally to home to score the winning run.
Nice to see that wasn't an isolated incident.
It wasn't all that long ago - April 2008
'Unbelievable' sportsmanship in softball game
CWU players carry WOU player around bases after knee injury following HR
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Really made my day and my wife's...Thanks!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z53KjQJM6cA&fe...
Diabolus est Deus Inversus
first off, there is a mercy rule...so it never wouldve gotten to 100-0
second, some of the marshall girls and coaches shouldve offered more than just one afternoon
i watched china get the pants beaten off of them by american squads, in olympic baseball...but they were learning...and getting better
there mustve been some parents who know the game...why werent they out helping the girls?
Some of the girls and coaches are spending more time. There is an ongoing effort to acquire coaches/mentors and equipment.
And instead of being a spoil sport, you could have googled that.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_g3kkGH8Mo
Killjoy, it's just a fecking game. :/
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"Killjoy, it's just a fecking game."
Ah, but it was so much more than just 'a fecking game'.
The Roncalli team gave us a lesson in life.
They demonstrated that you don't have to be asses to make it to the top.
That there are more important things than winning.
The Roncalli team showed true leadership.
I would sooner trust any of the Roncalli players with my life than trust most of our elected 'leaders' with my dirty socks...
You'd be surprise at the positive effect simple caring has on people.
Walt, why do you insist on being such a dick??
there's no crying in baseball...or softball
funny, when the usa girls softball team destroyed all comers (except the japanese) none of them cared
cuz they are winners....
you can learn by losing
im glad they are mentoring the girls...im glad that they will learn the game
but they still couldve played to the mercy rule (probably wouldve taken one inning) and then taught them about the game
i think the mlb should start partnering with more innercity communities to work with girls in softball
softball/baseball is a thinking person's sport....basketball is for dummies
Funny, as i think that softball/baseball is for the lazy "hee, is there a game going on, where can i get my snacks, or something" crowd.
But as these are just opinions this crap doesn't matter.
Try harder, you are losing the game.
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I don't give a toss.
You just have to know what to watch for. When I go to a game, I hate having to get up for snacks, or to go to the restroom. Grab a scorecard, a hot dog, a bag of peanuts and a pop, then watch all the little subtleties.
Don't try to confuse the issue with half-truths and gorilla dust.
The time you where "talking" i just set up a meth lab. That's how boring it is.
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Edit: luckily there's the world cup soon. I'll wave my flag like a fecking loony. Weee.
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I don't give a toss.
I think you know that I'm a fan of teh football, but most Americans have the same feeling for that sport as your feelings for baseball.
It's all about familiarity, I guess.
Don't try to confuse the issue with half-truths and gorilla dust.
Once a two years i can wave the red white and blue. Wear fugly orange crap and walk around fucking drunk!
j/k i always walk around drunk! Pffft
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I don't give a toss.
;)
I'll be rooting for the Oranje, but I'm prepared to be disappointed in the first game of the knockout round. As usual.
Don't try to confuse the issue with half-truths and gorilla dust.
They always disappoint. After '88 "we" where major crap.
The battle with Portugal was the only funny thing happened after that.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKXq7xcnkis
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The most retarded game i ever saw. I was watching it and all i could think was: no no no, this is not happening. Fuuuuck!
And i got so pissed off with the Portuguese. I damned them to hell.
Not that the Dutch where any better, they played filthy as well.
The most stupid game i ever saw. :/
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I don't give a toss.
Even while paying a compliment to one, you shit on another.
Yeah, circa 1915, maybe, it was the thinking person's sport. Ever since then it's eroded into strikeouts or 3-run homers. Screw Babe Ruth and Earl Weaver. I'll take John McGraw and Honus Wagner any day.
Don't try to confuse the issue with half-truths and gorilla dust.
it would of taken 3 1/2 more innings for the mercy rule to take effect. It doesn't go into effect until at least the 5th inning, and most likely by that time, they wouldn't of had any time to teach the other team.
ETA and in softball I believe it's called the run ahead rule.
way late, I know... but I actually linked to the Tom Hanks "there's no crying in baseball" clip that you allude to, and you know why? Because I thought it was a great illustration of how unhinged, petty and ridiculous sports people are (and in particular, "men"/neanderthal jock types). It is not so important that you don't stop sometimes and make a point to your athletes: winning isn't everything and sometimes good competition and a true spirit of sportsmanship is what makes a team better.
The "no crying in baseball" quotation is so ridiculous to because what is shows us is a grown man behaving like a CHILD... caring so much about a GAME the he will belittle others. A GAME, little more than an arbitrary set of rules established to allow people to exercise and compete against each other in a particular fashion.
To Hanks (and people who think winning is everything/competitive jock assholes), the fact that she threw past the cut off man (and put a runner in scoring position, ultimately costing her team the lead) seems perfectly reasonable grounds to rip her to shreds (and then destroy her for having an emotional reaction to his hostility).
What makes the clip so funny to me is that his character doesn't "get" that he is berating her for getting emotional, when his out-of-control anger is much more destructive to their team (e.g., he insults the ump and gets thrown out of the game). Rambling and must go... but, you're something, man...
You know, when you talk about the USA team beating China (and that China was learning and getting better, despite losing), it's totally different. Chinese players knew the fundamentals, which was not the case here at all. If athletes don't even know how to put on and use their sports equipment, let alone how to do basic things like swinging the bat, it isn't even safe to play with then (let alone sporting/fun).
What shocks me is that you talk like both teams didn't learn anything because China lost and China still learned something. Well, in this case (with one team that lacks the fundamental skills to even play safely), both teams learned a lot. They learned (from these AWESOME coaches and themselves) that sometime there is more to being a good sport than winning at all costs, or being so cut-throat that you believe decimating your enemy is the only way they will learn how to become better.
They learned that compassion matters, that class/dignity trumps "winning"... and maybe that will separate them from "champion" professional athletes who do steroids to get the edge, who play for selfish reasons, who injure other players maliciously without regard for what the competition is supposed to *really* be about.... Maybe this "softness" will mean the neophyte team won't ever win a game because that really badass team didn't wallop them good... But you know what, GREAT!!! WE NEED MORE OF THIS ATTITUDE AND LESS OF YOURS!!! I will gladly take more bronzes (or no medals) in the Olympics if this country stops worrying about WINNING all of the time and starts caring about caring.
Do you get this, Walt...? those two teams learned EVERYTHING and they taught (most of us) EVERYTHING at the same time. Open da eyez, man. What matters in this world is not who can be the most ruthless, savage, and mercenary. "King of the Mountain" is a game most enjoyed by 5 year olds, not adults.
What matters most is people who realize that ALL activities we participate in are collective efforts and we are bettered by helping those around us, not always seeking to beat them...
rambling rambling... video games call =/
You're articulating a radical progressive vision of empathy & speaking truth to power.
Any one of your sentences was worth all of Walt's conventional thinking.
Thank you.
I know that there are always people like you who try to spoil things for everyone else, but I'm sorry I had to come across one of them this morning.
It's a great story, and almost all of the comments are from people who "get it". Then there's this contrary, picky comment from you.
I just love stories like this. The story shows why we need women running the world too.
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This is a great story and made my day. But don't think for a SECOND that women are better at running the world. That is as sexist as the myth of male strength. To those who think women run things better I give you Condi Rice, Liz Cheney and Sarah Palin.
The people of privilege will always risk their complete destruction rather than surrender any material part of their advantage." J.K. Galbraith
I like these kind of stories too. I made my kid read it. He got it.
I really enjoyed reading this. After all the bad news, this really brightened my day.
While it's a nice story, I have to wonder how a team of complete beginners was scheduled against one of the best teams in the area.
I somehow doubt college football will see that sort of sportsmanship when Alabama plays Georgia State, a team in its first year of college football.
Thank you very much. More like this, please.
Corruption favors the wealthy.
Something positive and good , it's been a long time .
a wonderful event of caring & thinking beyond oneself.
Sure, one can analyze the heck out of it...why did they do it; we should let things happen as they will; was there an agenda; not all women would do this; why not use the mercy rule...on & on...
My thoughts...people stepping out of the box...thinking of others & not just themselves...giving instead of asking how much more they can get...seems to me that these women were rising above the norm.
This should be an inspiration to all...sadly to many it won't be...they just don't 'get it'.
helping others to improve their game.
I hardly equate walking off the field of play with kicking someone in the head, but, I realize using Manning's and Wood's name gives much more appeal and significance to the story. I'm sure no one here has EVER acted in such a snooty manner in their jobs after being frustrated/angered.
Expecting sportsmanship all the time in professional sports where there are millions to be made/lost and careers made/ended is like expecting ethics all the time in politics. Ain't gonnna' happen. And what about the Baylor women's basketball team, Tanya Harding, or Elizabeth Lambert? It ain't just the guys that are bad sports sometimes.
I've seen some stuff, man. And some thangs...
Here is an article about the occurrence in the Indianapolis Star earlier in the month: http://www.indystar.com/article/20100505/SPOR...
*Sorry, this is in response to "cw" who questioned whether or not it was real ("I know nothing about this guy (he is probably a sham like the rest)... and who knows how "real life" this story is..").
Interestingly, Cardinal Roncalli became Pope John the 23rd. I think he would have been proud to see this true expression of humility and caring for fellow athletes.
It is sad that behaviours like this are remarkable enough to be held up as examples.
There are times when what might at first glance seems like losing is the greater victory.
Contragulations ladies and well done on both sides.
You will remember this day far longer and with much more pride than either the win or the hard fought lose would give you.
(Too bad some countries can't learn this leasson.)
It's a really pleasant, heartwarming little story (though I don't think Ayn Rand would approve).
..next time you copy-paste an article from another site, you might want to read over it before you press that "submit" button. Didn't you notice that because you selected the entire thing, including the sidebar, that paragraph ended up being repeated?
Kinda bush-league, honestly.
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